I’m sitting here thinking about my history with dating. I’m terrified to put myself out there and truly open up. I’ve convinced myself that what I’m doing is saving me from the drama and heartache of getting emotionally attached to someone.
I’ve done the buddy thing and more often than not it doesn’t work out in my best interest. Almost to the point where I’ve fallen in love and all they wanted was what was between my legs, which kind of messed up my way of thinking.
I’ve played the other woman and ended up becoming this kind of cold hearted person, who decided to be more like a man, and ended up hurting a few people, which wasn’t my intention. When they asked what happened, I was too afraid to tell them it’s my defense mechanism to protect my heart and my feelings.
I’m afraid to entertain the thought of someone actually wanting to be with me. I’m scared because what if once they get to know me they don’t want me? I’d have to start all over again and I don’t think I’m emotionally prepared for that…I know I’m thinking too far in advance. A major problem of mines, I have control issues when it comes to my feelings. I try to control them.
I think my last “REAL” relationship hurt me so bad and I don’t know how to get over it. Being hurt like that was like a knife to my heart. I realize that most of the men I gave my heart to didn’t deserve it. Letting them come in and out as they please, is like not good either…it’s like the people that cut themselves. I need to feel something at that point in time, so I did it and once it was done I realized it hurt more than it helped.
Maybe I need to see someone to kind of find a way to understand some of the feeling I’m feeling in regards to dating. Writing about it hurts but it helps me look back at my words and try to understand. I don’t know maybe this is what’s best. Gotta stop hiding and lying to myself and try to understand how to conquer this.
**Pardon my rambling…I wrote this over the weekend and I felt maybe I could share and get some advice from my blog fam and commentors.**