Girl Talk ~ Threesomes

Has you partner ever asked you for a threesome? Why is there a double standard?


Let me kick this off with my rules for a threesome.

Sunnydelyte21’s Rule For a Threesome

Rule 1: If you have deep feelings for the guy, you might not want to do it.

Rule 2: DON’T PLAN EVERYTHING OUT. Let things happen on there own. You can plan the who, maybe even the day or night. But don’t ever say it has to happen on this day.

Rule 3: The 3rd person, (depending on the situation) should never be someone the guy has ever dealt with.

Rule 4: Alcohol should be optional. But you don’t have to get pissy drunk, just get a little buzzed and calms the nerves.

Rule 5: Whatever happens happens enjoy and be merry!!!

My two friends and I were having a chat about Threesomes. We were talking about what could happen in different scenarios.

One of my friends explains a threesome she experienced. It was planned out by the guy, who asked for the threesome. Although, when it came down to it he was nervous. He went wrong by actually planning it out to its entirety. He put too much pressure on himself. Needless to say, it went down and after my home girl went to wash. She came back to see the dude fucking the girl and was shocked and upset. Now one might think what? But she was upset because when it was going down the guy and girl barely touched for whatever reason and it seemed that there was a discomfort between the two. Then when she leaves and come back he all in and so is she. Now, she looks at him different.

Why? Because she had deep feelings for him, Rule #1 was broken.

I, then explain my somewhat of a threesome experience. My ex and my home girl planned it and boy was I shocked. I came to her crib and he was there. And the attack went into motion. He came up on me and started to kiss me and take my pants down. After which, he began giving me head and she joined in. It felt crazy, weird, and very good. There was a lot of kissing between us and after which I was ready to go, but she stopped me and said “you guys enjoy” and left.

She knew of my feelings for him and his feelings for me. So she knew that taking it there could’ve very well cost us our friendship and I respect her for that. He knew I wanted to experience that and made it happen.

Although there was no liquor involved, he helped relax me and calm my nerves.

Have you ever had a threesome? Did it go well? Also, explain what maybe some of your rules.

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34 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. T Renard
    Feb 01, 2010 @ 14:04:25

    I had always dreamed of having a threesome but never followed through with one. For a man it is always in the back of our minds to never pay too much attention to the “other” woman. In past relationships opportunities presented themselves and I always hesitated. Why? I honestly felt that it could become addictive behavior and no one woman could ever satisfy me. I planned to remarry so why put myself in that position. I guess I have to live vicariously through others.

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    • sunnydelyte21
      Feb 01, 2010 @ 14:09:02

      I don’t know about it becoming addictive. But it’s not for everyone to try or do for that matter.

      Yes, you will have to live vicariously through others.

      But what’s the harm in doing it once. LOL

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  2. Mr.TramueL™
    Feb 01, 2010 @ 14:39:45

    We need to start a guide. “Sunny D’s Guide to Having a Threesome”

    Rule number 1 seems hella important! In retrospect I believe I had an opportunity to sharpen my 3some skills with a friend girl, we have never been involved romantically (or sexually) but I think she propositioned me. This has to be the best situation for a threesome (Rule #3) not attached & some random chic that the other person trust and knows.

    Like you & I discussed before. Definitely a dbl standard for me … ’cause I’m down with you, me & she. You, me & he is a fail. I can’t answer why … well I can, but we will have to go offline with that!

    Even though your friend left … did you not feel some kinda way that she was there for the intro?

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    • sunnydelyte21
      Feb 01, 2010 @ 15:29:58

      I didn’t feel any kind of way becuz she was there for the intro. She was the best person for the job! Hell, she could’ve watched if she wanted to.

      CTFU @ We need to start a guide. “Sunny D’s Guide to Having a Threesome

      Don’t be shy to explain here. LOL

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  3. thedlife
    Feb 01, 2010 @ 14:44:04

    Sigh….are you in my head?! LOL I was JUST talking to a friend of mine about this. The S.O. has mentioned that he would want one simply to try it once. We’ve talked about the “rules” and my concerns with him wanting to be with the other girl afterward, what if she’s better, etc. He tried (as much as one can in this situation) to ease my concerns and tried to assure me that to him it’s just an experience to have once (more if I was down) not really a gateway to cheating, etc…supposedly it’s not that deep of a thrill or fantasy to him that he would see that happening.

    We came up with:

    Must be done out of state or country

    No kissing

    Must be done on last night of vaca

    Protection (of course!)

    No friends

    Both of us must comfortable with the person and situation

    No number/email/twitter/facebook/morse code exchanging (and he knows I have the eye of a hawk…I’ll be watching!)

    Honestly, I’ve considered it…ONCE couldn’t hurt could it, lol. I’m still unsure about how I feel about another woman with my man…or with me for that matter. I mean I know it wouldn’t feel bad….but it’s a woman you know. Anyway, I’m not completely closed off to the idea…catch me after a couple shots of Patron, I’ll be more certain then lol.

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    • sunnydelyte21
      Feb 01, 2010 @ 15:32:50

      CTFU @ Anyway, I’m not completely closed off to the idea…catch me after a couple shots of Patron, I’ll be more certain then lol.

      I can dig….who wouldn’t have concerns? It’s completey normal.

      Idk about the kissing thing….but I’m not big on kissing (depending on the situation….catch me after a few shots of anything…ctfu)

      Thanks for sharing.

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  4. Mason Jamal
    Feb 01, 2010 @ 18:20:18

    I’ve been around this block a few times. It knows my face. From my experiences, I agree 100% with your advice. What I find, however, from talking to other men is that most of them like the idea but can’t bring themselves to pull the trigger or can’t figure out how to negotiate the deal to bring it to reality. Having an alter ego helps. It takes you and your swagger somewhere else. Mine is Broadway Jones. Good post and very honest.

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  5. notesofasexiststayathomefather
    Feb 01, 2010 @ 21:39:46

    Hmmmmmm, double standard? I don’t know, but it’s true that my wife and I have different takes on this. No biggie, it only concerns pre-marriage opinion. Anyway, here are some other double standards to ponder:

    Mary Kay Letourneau? (and the politically incorrect comment about how men would love to have been molested)

    Prison life for men vs. for women? (women braid each other’s hair, men rape and stab each other)

    Firefighters? (Men need to carry a 220 lb. pack to pass the CPAT – Candidate Physical Aptitude Test, women 130 lbs. Who would you want rescuing your child?)

    Lesbians? (Lots of lesbians say they dated men and it turned them to women, my wife asks: How come you never hear a man saying, ‘I’m sick of women, I’m going to start dating men!)

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  6. FreeMan
    Feb 01, 2010 @ 21:56:42

    How did I get invited to this post? I got to stop answering requests from twitter. LOL!

    Never had a threesome in my life I think I like the woman I’m with too much. Call me a sucker for love but I don’t talk to too many women that I genuinely don’t think seriously about.

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  7. woodynyou
    Feb 02, 2010 @ 00:39:21

    I’ve heard a lot about nervousness wrecking the threesome experience. If it ever happens to me I hope it comes up spontaneously.

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  8. JBrel
    Feb 02, 2010 @ 17:48:23

    wow..i’ve always wondered about 3somes..but idk..never got around to planning it out..Plus I don’t know I would want another dude digging my girl out..and I don’t know what I’d do if i was knocking another girls walls down while my girl was playing background..But hey..anything is possible..

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  9. Goddess Intellect
    Feb 04, 2010 @ 07:05:54

    haha! Interesting story…I’m too soft for a threesome, I get my feelings hurt easily…but I like to fantasize about them…two men, another girl ooooohhhweee

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  10. Reggie
    Feb 22, 2010 @ 13:24:53

    I used to have a friend and he and I used to share women together. It happened a few times; and once when I was a lot younger one of my cousins and I shared a woman. It was interesting. He and I have never spoken of it again. The woman was actually one of his distant cousins, but she wasn’t related to me. Sex is something that we’re all supposed to enjoy.

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  11. Don
    Aug 09, 2011 @ 17:38:55

    You pretty much took the words right out if my mouth. Threesomes are very satisfying and fulfilling until feelings become involved.

    Yes. I personally could not sex the woman as I liked, only when she and I would meet up at hotel rooms.

    Once upon a time, a woman stole my girlfriend after a passionate threesome. That’s why nowadays I’m like, “Fuck a threesome!”

    No pun intended.

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  12. Sweet Nectar
    Aug 23, 2011 @ 15:48:04

    I have experienced a threesome as the other girl. It was cool but the guy was threatned by me. Tired to beast me but I shiut it down immediately. Personally, if I were with someone I would not want to share him with anyone. I am stingy with MY MAN. If he were to bring it up I would say how about another guy I am sure that would end the conversation right there. I know how much we women trip on our men being with another woman in front of us. I agree if you are going make sure it is without any emotional attachments. Otherwise hurt feelings will envelope all involved.

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  13. Coco Rivers
    Nov 14, 2011 @ 16:00:54

    Great rules. “There is a time and place for everything.” That’s my mantra and I’m sticking to it lol. I’ve had two threesomes and both were cool – with me. The first one broke rule #1 for the other girl so she wasn’t quite as umm appreciative. I have to laugh because what the first commenter said about them being addictive is exactly what I thought after the first one. “Participate with caution.” I think you would have to be dead from the waist down not to even casually wonder what it would be like to have your pleasure doubled oooh weee lol.Love, of course, completely changes that dynamic.

    That said, every scenario/concern described above is valid. You can set all the rules you like but you never know what will happen once the doors are closed. Jealousy is a biggie, for one. People connect sexually in ways that can’t be anticipated and so there is no doubt someone out there who might be able to “do” your partner better than you. I’m just saying. For the hedonist, it’s an absolute must ;)

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    • sunnydelyte21
      Nov 15, 2011 @ 09:18:26

      Yes…no one can deny a connection so you have to be mindful of that…

      Rule #1 always seems to get broken there for problems occur..I been there…so I know that all to well…but I didn’t break it…he did..lol

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  15. Mz. Bambi
    Sep 08, 2013 @ 20:25:26

    I’ve actually had a threesome, an orgy and then a *counts on fingers*…5’gy lol…

    The threesome was with this chick I knew really well..she’s actually someone I interviewed for my blog..a Pansexual…to my surprise I didn’t know that until AFTER the situation. But yes, it was her, this sexy ass dude I met through another friend and myself. He wasn’t really attracted to her so he tried to keep focus on me as she sucked him off..the both of us were surprised at that! She was a BEAST! Then once he and I started going at it, she’d come up and try to lick my tail which threw me off because I wasn’t into women but hell, I didn’t want to do this by myself. So really the 3some involved her doing a lot of oral on the both of us and me going in with the guy.

    The orgy I had was years ago with a female co-worker of mine and this dude I met who I thought could get it..well..he got it alright. She and I didn’t touch one another (embarrassed I guess) even though we were both tipsy..but he would play with her twat while he screwed me and vice versa ..I just made sure he used a new condom when it was my turn. Can’t take no chances yanno.

    And the 5’gy..boy o boy..well let’s just say I went to a party with a male friend who was well aware that I had been bicurious for some time. So he had actually made arrangements for 4 chicks to have their way with me in a room set up with candles lit and soft music. I was TOASTED on Patron but all I could remember was starting off with two chicks taking my clothes off and going down on me..then another walked in and had the strap on..then another walked in and was going in on my boobs…another walked in but she just came to watch..and after I bursted from all of the penetration and breast action…they left.

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  16. fefe23
    Oct 26, 2013 @ 21:32:22

    I really dislike when women get pushed into having a 3some. Do it because you want it, not your man. I had one and it was wack. Girl was too focused on the guy

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